I seek to build relationships with people who are unlike me because I know I will learn from them.

I don't allow others to take advantage of me.

Without waiting to be asked, I give my opinion.

When others disagree with me, I find new ways to make my case rather than simply let the matter drop.

When necessary, I ask friends to make introductions to others who can help me achieve my goals.

Without hesitation, I can tell you the three things I value most in life.

I am clear about what I do and don't want.

When meeting new people, I actively try to make them feel comfortable.

I set clear boundaries with others.

I express myself clearly and concisely.

When making a proposal to a group, I lobby in advance to increase the likelihood of acceptance.

I spend time each week building my personal and professional networks.

It's hard to make me feel guilty.

Negative reactions from others don't impact my decisions.

Regardless of what is happening in the moment, I devote my full attention to the person trying to speak with me.

When starting a new project or embarking on an adventure, I ensure at the outset that everyone's role is clear.

I don't ask permission; I inform others of my decisions.

When it's clear a difficult conversation is going nowhere, I'll suggest a time-out, then schedule a time to revisit the issue.

When I don't know something, I look for someone in my network who does and ask that person for help.

Each week I do something to promote living my values.

I have no problem breaking the rules if the situation calls for it.

Although I might be nice, I don't need people to like me.

I say no to unreasonable requests.

Others describe me as a great listener.

I don't give up after hearing one "no" to a request.

I not only join professional associations, I regularly attend their meetings.

I know the things that are nonnegotiable for me.

I can clearly describe my Achilles' heel.

I would rather allow someone to save face than suggest that the other person is wrong.

I have no problem engaging in difficult conversations to express my needs.

When the message is important, I plan in advance what I'm going to say.

I turn differences of opinion into ways to create better outcomes.

I volunteer for high-profile opportunities at work, in the community, at church, etc.

When my plate is overloaded, I delegate.

No one but me controls my future.

I leave unhealthy relationships and move on.

I enjoy negotiating.

I create win-win situations where my needs are met as well as those of others.

I vary my approach based on the person I want to influence.

I have no problem questioning the opinions of "experts" such as doctors, professors, lawyers, etc.

Others describe me as a "take-charge" person.

I've been a good steward of my future.

I maintain positive relationships with people I don't particularly like.

I make my case using facts, not feelings.

Before trying to influence others, I try to learn as much as possible about their needs, opinions, or positions.

I plant seeds in advance of presenting new ideas or requests.

I mentor others.

I am living the life I want.

I have a clear mental picture of how I want my life to be in the future.

I honor the quid pro quo in relationships (rate yourself a 1 if you don't know what quid pro quo means).

I don't hesitate to ask for help when I need it.

When ignored, I continue to make my voice heard rather than simply acquiesce.

I choose my battles carefully.

I connect people with common interests.

I behave consistently with Socrates' statement, "The unexamined life is not worth living.

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